Sunday, May 31, 2009

On Hayden's Sex Scandal



Here's a well written opinion on this irritating Hayden Kho scandal feasted upon by the Senate and the very intelligent Senator Bong Revilla Jr.:

"Though I’d support regulation on pornography, I’d die for my right to privately enjoy porn, including the mutually- consensual recording of sexual acts for personal viewing. I’d prefer a total ban on bad Filipino films that will most probably include all the films of grandstanding senators. We don't need morals. We need intelligent leaders. I’d prefer knowing the existence of perverts than be surrounded by hypocrites"

Paolo Villaluna
filmmaker (Selda, Ilusyon)

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Against Homophobia



Last May 16, 2009, a special event against homophobia has been organized in Malate's iconic gay dance bar, Bed. The said activity is part of a global initiative together with other LGBTQIA organizations.

The event is also known as International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (the "IDAHO", as it is usually called). The aim of this project is to send a strong signal to all, decision makers, public opinion, civil rights movements, human rights defenders, etc. throughout the world expressing our advocacy and struggle for sexual rights.

On God, Gays and Catholics



“If we say our God is an all-loving god, how do you explain that at any given time probably 400 million living on the planet at one time would be gay? Are the religions of the world, as does Catholicism, saying to those hundreds of millions of people, you have to pass your whole life without any physical, genital expression of that love?”

- Archbishop Rembert Weakland

Friday, May 29, 2009

Penis Massage: Intro



In the Sanskrit tradition from India, penis is called Lingam and is loosely translated as "Wand of Light." (I agree, I see light all around me whenever I see a from a gorgeous man!)

In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a "Wand of Light" that channels creative energy and pleasure. (perhaps, I'm unknowingly a Tantra follower -- I honor and respect every penis that appears before me and it actually gives me creative inspiration)

Back to the topic, because the penis is an honorable "wand of light", Tantric tradition has mastered an art referred to as "lingam massage".

Here are some notes from whitelotuseast.com:

Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.

Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

Beginning the Massage

Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation.

Pour a small quantity of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull up and slide off, then alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of the Lingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with right and left hands.

More on this on my next few posts.


Source: http://www.whitelotuseast.com/LingamMassage.htm

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

The Hayden Kho Effect



I got this very informative post on the effect of the "Dr. Haydnen Kho Jr. Sex Scandal" on all of us.


DELUSIONAL KAP

By: Amiel Aguilar Cabanlig


Dr. Hayden Kho’s 15 minutes of Gucci Gangbangin’ fame is over. Like his Gucci predecessors, one can only surmise that the secret of their over-night success was the cause to their over-night downfall. But there is something more pressing than the rise and fall of these pretentious lemmings. An unscrupulous political carpet bagger is using Hayden’s pitiable fate to propagate a tyrannical bill!


Still pending two years after Sen. Bong Revilla introduced it to the Senate, the Anti-Pornography Act of 2007 seeks to “protect all individuals from proliferation of pornographic materials and to curb nefarious activities involving pornography.” Who else is supporting the bill but anti-gay Rep. Bienvenido Abante; The Pastor turned Congressman who is adamant about purging the country of “sinful acts” of its citizens…

Last year, Sen. Manny Villar filed the Anti-Obscenity and Pornography Bill of 2008 or Senate Bill No. 2464 and a howl of protest was raised against it by journalists, artists, bloggers, media personalities and from VICTORINA. In one fell swoop, the bill would have thrown art out with smut by classifying all of it as obscene material.

May I assure Senator Bong Revilla that no PR firm is working to demolish him. While Victorina is completely capable of such, our fight is within the bounds of what is humane, moral and legal. We are here not to destroy but to transform.

From Section 3, (b) “Pornographic or pornography” refers to objects or subjects of film,television shows, photography, illustrations, music, games, paintings, drawings, illustrations, advertisements, writings, literature or narratives, contained in any format, whether audio or visual, still or moving pictures, in all forms of film, print, electronic, outdoor or broadcast mass media, or whatever future technologies to be developed, which are calculated to excite, stimulate or arouse impure thoughts and prurient interest, regardless of the motive of the author thereof. (c) “Mass media” refers to film, print, broadcast, electronic … (d) “Materials” refers to all movies, films, television shows, photographs, music, games, paintings, drawings, illustrations, advertisements, writings, literature or narratives, whether produced in the Philippines or abroad…

It means some of the things we are doing now may be unlawful once this tyrannical bill is approved.

For example the following will be deemed illegal:

1. Buying Cosmopolitan, FHM, UNO and similar magazines. This falls under Prohibited Act #10 which disallows anyone from possessing lewd content in whatever form - photos, magazines, computer files, etc.


2. Posting naked pictures of males or females. Sexy male and female photos by Raul Teehankee, Raymond Isaac and the guru Jun De Leon will all fall under this category.


3. Panting naked pictures. National Artist Ben Cabrera will easily fall victim to this silly law.


4. Broadcasting about sex on Radio. The “Boys Night Out”, “Good Times” and King DJ Logan will definitely be prosecuted under this law.


5. Indie-films. This will be the end of all gay themed Indie movies.


What is even scarier about the Bong Revilla Bill is how it defines obscenity: “Obscene” refers to anything that is indecent or offensive or contrary to good customs or religious beliefs, principles or doctrines, or tends to corrupt or deprave the human mind, or is calculated to excite impure thoughts or arouse prurient interest, or violates the proprieties of language and human behavior, regardless of the motive of the producer…

Even without the Revilla Bill being enacted, our DJ Mojo Jojo was fined several times by the Kapisanan ng mga Broadcasters ng Pilipinas (KBP) for saying “WANG” on air.

Victorina’s resident lawyer, Atty. Trixie Angeles states that “Revilla’s Bill, Senate Bill No. 12 prescribes against the publication, exhibition, sale, distribution, possession of pornographic material. Pornography is over-broadly defined as referring to any representation, through publication, exhibition, cinematography, indecent shows, information technology by whatever means, of a person (whether minor or adult) engaged in real or simulated explicit sexual activities or any other representation of the sexual parts of a person for primarily sexual purpose that is intended to stimulate erotic rather than aesthetic or emotional feeling (emphasis ours). The law says that even talking about the sexual act is pornography as is any representation of the sexual organs (which could include breasts, by the way).”

Will Senator Revilla use Katrina Halili’s embarrassment to foist censorship upon us?

We sympathize with Katrina, but we will look at Sen. Revilla’s legislation with suspicion until he can show that this isn’t just another Hitlerian response to the freedom of expression, opportunely timed to coincide with one woman’s humiliation.”


Source: http://donavictorin a.blogspot.com/2009/05/delusions-of-kap.html.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Paid Flirtation



One of my more senior gay friends was sharing his opinion on why strip bars (gay bars) are less practical than going to massage parlors. He reasons out that the investment with strip bars are quite expensive for a night of sex considering that one has to pay for entrance fee (about Php250), man's drink (about Php250), the costly bar fine if you plan to take the man earlier than the closing of the bar and the payment for the sexual services of your hunk for the night.

He argues that massage parlors are more practical since you get an intimate encounter with your chosen hunk for a total average of about Php1500.

But in my observation, most gay men who patronize the strip bars don't just come for the sexual encounter. Most of them pay for the "hours" of flirtation that goes on inside the bar.

If you sit around a strip bar and observe the gay men and how they interact with their "strippers" on their table, you could see the happiness on their faces while a nice looking guy slowly flirts with them.

This, I think is what strip bar patrons are paying for --- that "high" feeling of intimately interacting with a gorgeous man. This experience is a lot different than a massage parlor. And this should cost more.

Photo lifted from: http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3082/3170145570_80823cdb22.jpg

Monday, May 25, 2009

Douglas Has It



I recently finished watching the first draft of our latest film "Little Boy, Big Boy" directed by Joselito Altarejos, and I was quite happy with the outcome of the movie.

Aside from it's clean photography, the most impressive aspect of the film is Douglas Robinson, one of the lead actors of the film.

Despite of him being a fairly inexperienced actor, Douglas, I must declare gives the best performance by a hunky actor from our past films: Ang Lalake sa Parola, Ang Lihim ni Antonio and Kambyo. Douglas has an impressive depth and timing only experienced actors can claim to.

It was such a revelation for this new actor. And yes, he also did reveal his nice thing down there (if only MTRCB would allow it).

Way to go, Douglas!

Irrelevant Gay Rights?



For many straight people I have talked to, gay men are "completely accepted" in Philippine society citing that many openly gay men are successful in their chosen field hence, for them, fighting for gay rights is practically unnecessary.

The Filipino literary icon, F. Sionil Jose echose this sentiment and has cited in his book "Why We Are Poor" that writers should not brand their works as "gay literature" since there is no need for Filipinos to shout about "gay rights".

This predominant belief is what I think this is at the heart of the "gay struggle" in our country. Majority think that there is no problem with how society treats Filipino gay men -- after all, homosexual acts are not illegal in this country and we don't get to read gay men beaten up out of hate in the tabloids everyday.

On the other hand, I know several gay men who have to tame their "queer" behavior just so they could easily move up in the corporate organization they belong to. Many gay men could never introduce their partners as their "partners" to their families. At most, they usually hide their relationship in the comfortable cloak of "best buddies". And more importantly the "anti-discrimination" bill against gays have yet to see the light of day.

The truth is, we Filipino gay men, are still on a struggle in our country. Although many things have been achieved by gay men before us, we are still far from complete social integration.

And we should never allow ourselves to believe that standing up for "gay rights" are now irrelevant.

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Happily Dead


Roderick Paulate, lead of "Ded na si Lolo"

"Ded na si Lolo", the latest offering from "Sine Direk" series, written and directed by theater veteran and scarf icon Soxie Topacio has a "crispy" screenplay and a brilliant acting ensemble led by Elizabeth Oropesa, Gina Alajar, Roderick Paulate, Manilyn Reynes and BJ Forbes.

Despite of it's minor technical flaws and perfunctory comedic formula, this is one of the few Filipino films I enjoyed watching.

"Ded na si Lolo" is running on its second week.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

MSM: Needs & Fantasies



Sexual desire and behavior are probably as diverse as all the shapes and sizes of all the penises of every man in this world.

And to confine such behavior and subsequent identities with rigid labels such as "gay" and "bi's" will defeat our goal in exploring the wealth of sexual diversity.

Here's the continuation of the MSM (Men having sex with men)series from Joe Kurt of glbtq.com:


"Usually, SMSM are turned off and left cold by images of naked men. Instead, they are sexually aroused by and attracted to women. Hence, their interaction with men is typically less about sexual desire for their partners than a desire to experiment or fulfill particular sexual fantasies, including fetish interests.

They may be strongly compelled and interested in various sexual experiences that may be labeled as homosexual (such as an interest in anal intercourse, especially if they desire to be penetrated, or fellatio). To fulfill these interests, they may seek out gay men, whom they perceive as less judgmental than women and more open to sexual experimentation without commitment.

Some SMSM may want to bond with and need affection from other men and find that they can achieve this through sexual interaction with other men. Some heterosexual men who feel that they did not receive sufficient affection and attention from their fathers seek sex with men as a way of finding male nurturance and acceptance. These men may prefer that the bonding remain nonsexual but cannot obtain intimacy except through sexual relations.

Some SMSM are narcissists who have a constant need for attention and acceptance. These men use sexuality with other men as a means of fulfilling their need to be adored and admired.

Some suffer from a form of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder in which the individual is preoccupied with the possibility that he might be homosexual. These men feel compelled to engage in certain behaviors that make them think that they are gay when in truth they are straight. They find no pleasure in sexual contact with men, but nevertheless are driven to participate in homosexual relations.

Some SMSM are acting out early childhood sexual abuse. If a basically heterosexual boy has been molested by a male relative, when he grows up, he may keep "returning to the scene of the crime" to defuse and desensitize his emotional pain. These heterosexual men are not homosexually oriented and their homosexual behavior has nothing to do with their sexual and romantic identities.

Other SMSM are sexually addicted and are looking for new ways to add to their sexual shame, excitement, and thrill. They compulsively act out with other men as a result of sexual addiction.

Finally, some SMSM enjoy fantasies of--or the reality of--their wives and girlfriends having sex with other men either in front of them, nearby, or with their knowledge about when and where it occurs. They are often sexually aroused by feeling humiliated that their wives or girlfriends are being pleased by another male whom they see as more potent and better endowed.

Other men enjoy being sexual with other men's wives in front of the cuckold husband or at least with his knowledge. Sometimes they engage in sexual behavior with the man but only in the presence of the wife or girlfriend."

For the complete article, visit: http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/straight_men_who.html

Big Boy Moved



Here is the other version of the poster of "Little Boy/ Big Boy".

The regular run of the film has been moved to last week of June (instead of June 3, as announced earlier). And a special screening will be held at Robinsons Galleria. The film stars Paolo Rivero (URIAN Best actor nominee for Live Show), Douglas Robinson (Bridal Shower) and "little boy" Renz Valerio.

"Little Boy/ Big Boy" is directed by Joselito Altarejos with the story and screenplay written by this blog author.

Friday, May 22, 2009

Raymund's Role



Raymund Cabral, is the new hunky eye candy to be introduced in the film "Tutok" directed by Joven Tan.

In this film, Raymund is assigned with the perfunctory sexy scenes as he plays a rebel soldier who sodomizes his captives. This role was originally offered to Paolo Rivero.

But according to Paolo Rivero, he turned down the role because he does not want to contribute to the negative image of rebel soldiers. Paolo admitted to me that he was once a student leader activist from FEU (Far Eastern University) and he has deep respect for the causes of these rebel soldiers.

Meanwhile, Paolo Rivero is excited for his new film, "Little Boy/ Big Boy" directed by Joselito Altarejos.

"Tutok" opens on May 27. "Little Boy/ Big Boy" is on June, 2009.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Harry Laurel?



I and filmmaker Joselito Altarejos were on a research when we went to this gay strip bar in Avenida, Manila called "D' Ultimate Zone". And we were quite amused to see that one of their star dancers named Ken closely resembles Harry Laurel, our star in "Ang Lalake sa Parola" (The Man in the Lighthouse)

Ken had the angelic face of Harry. And he was taller and a lot leaner than the actor.

But no. We never offered any role for him for Altarejos' new film, "Pintakasi"

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

The Gay Archbishop Tells All



In the US, former Archbishop of Milwaukee, Rembert G. Weakland came out openly about his homosexuality and writes a memoir about his gay relationship.

Here is the New York Times Story.

"Archbishop Rembert G. Weakland of Milwaukee was one of the Catholic Church's most venerable voices for change until 2002 when he abruptly retired after his involvement in a sexual relationship became known.

Archbishop Weakland, who had been the intellectual touchstone for church reformers, has written a memoir scheduled for release in June 2009. In it he speaks out about how internal church politics affected his response to the fallout from his romantic affair; how bishops and the Vatican cared more about the rights of abusive priests than about their victims; and why Catholic teaching on homosexuality is wrong.

On ABC's "Good Morning America" in 2002, the man the archbishop had fallen in love with 23 years earlier said the Milwaukee archdiocese paid him $450,000 years before to keep quiet about his affair with the archbishop -- an affair the man called date rape.

Archbishbop Weakland said he had been aware of his homosexual orientation since he was a teenager and suppressed it until he became archbishop, when he had relationships with several men because of "loneliness that became very strong." He said he was probably the first Catholic bishop to come out of the closet voluntarily."


For the complete article, visit: http://topics.nytimes.com/topics/reference/timestopics/people/w/rembert_g_weakland/index.html

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Tutok



"Tutok" is the new film produced by actor Allen Dizon. Starring Emilioi Garcia, Andrea Del Rosario and Boots Anson Roa the film is about the lives of two newsmen and the abuse they suffer under the hands of rebels.

The film's complete synopsis follows:

Roman and Zaldy are two newsmen who are in need of a big break. Roman is a reporter while Zaldy is a cameraman. Together, they decide to cover a story involving a group of rebels living in the mountains. Roman is discouraged by his wife and Zaldy by his mother but they are desperate and so, they proceed to their plan to do an unauthorized coverage of the rebels. In their encounter with the rebels and their leader, Ka Roldan, the two experience a nightmare as they are raped and forced to test each other's will to live.

Roman is killed and Zaldy returns to civilization traumatized by the experience. In the end, Zaldy takes his own life because he is unable to accept what has happened to Roman, while the media gives them the coverage that they aspired for, at the price of their own lives,

Tutok opens May 27.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Heavenly Touch Reaction



Here's an impassioned reaction on the gay film "Heavenly Touch" directed by award winning filmmaker Joel Lamangan. May I state that this is not my review and does not reflect my perspective on this film

I am posting this review with due respect to my readers who take the effort in sharing their thoughts and writing comments in this blog.

"Heavenly Touch" Reaction from reader Sugarfree

Heavenly Touch is a hilarious film. Not in a good way though. You'll laugh at it because it's stupid. Most of the scenes are.

I let out a loud laugh in the hospital scene where the two hardly convincing lovebirds/leads are having a melodramatic exchange. As soon as the scene opens, Joash sobs in a really stupid funny way.

I don't understand why the film industry considers Lamangan a director, he can hardly create a decent film. The plot is messy and heavily manipulated. If Vim Nadera sees this one, he'd definitely blurt out "What's your effing point?" What does Lamangan really want to tell us with this film? That a true love can exist between two men? That bad people deserve to die? That all problems can be solved? Does he even show us something new? Definitely not. If you consider those provocative, heated kissing scenes something new then count those, but otherwise HT is a completely trashy film.

What I feel toward the film is beyond anger. I hate myself for watching it. It seems like Lamangan doesn't really learn from his mistake. Walang Kawala was a complete failure and everyone is aware of this. Oh well, I wasn't really expecting something good from Lamangan. I don't even think he can make a good movie. He's too focused with the sex scenes because he seems to believe that these are the most important things the audience want.

I hope Aureus Solito and Jun Lana continue to make decent films of the same genre because I'm fed up with these sloppy movies masquerading as indie films.

If HT or WK gets included in this year's Cinemalaya feature films, I'd be furious!

MSM: The Desires of the Straight Man



To continue with our MSM (Men Who Have Sex with other Men) Series from the GLBT Encylopedia, let's probe on the very interesting question: Why Would Straight Men Have Sex with other men?

There are a number of reasons why straight men might have sex with other men. These reasons range from situational homosexuality to sexual addiction. In general, SMSM behavior is about physical release and sexual behaviors, not about attraction or desire for another man. The attraction is toward the act or the body (or body parts) of the male not the other man himself.

Straight men who have sex with other men often have high sex drives and are easily aroused sexually. They may seek out connections with men for a quick and easy sexual release in which they are not required to engage emotionally or to risk their identity as a heterosexual man.

Some SMSM might be described as "Hetero-Emotional and Homo-Sexual." These are men who are romantically attracted to the opposite sex but whose predominant sexual arousal is by other men. They are usually heterosexually married and in love with their wives, but nevertheless feel sexually driven by a need to have sex with other men.

Other SMSM are socially phobic and have inadequate skills necessary to flirt with and connect to women. They may have such extreme anxiety that they find their sexual release with other men due to the ease and lack of social skills necessary to have a sexual hook-up through the Internet, rest areas, parks, and other places men cruise for sex with other men.

For the complete article, visit: http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/straight_men_who.html

Friday, May 15, 2009

Gay Glorietta Trap



A few months back, a reliable source told me about his doctor friend who happens to be gay. While walking along Glorietta, a nice looking boy smiled at him. A transaction happens between the them and the doctor and the boy decides to leave the mall.

Along one of the streets of Makati, a police mobile stopped them.

The doctor was soon harassed and was allegedly forced to cough up fifty thousand pesos as he was threatened by the police with a case on corruption of minors.

Gay Men beware.

The Gay Royalty




Manvendra Gohil is the only Indian royal who is openly homosexual. For several years, he has been on a mission to promote the interests of gays globally.

He made headlines around the world when he publicly came out of the closet in 2006 and has subsequently appeared on Oprah Winfrey's TV show, starred in the gay film Emotionally Yours and set up an HIV-awareness charity to educate gay men about the dangers of the disease.

Having read some articles about this Indian Gay Prince, how I wish we could have an openly gay man in Malacanang or perhaps from one of the powerfully wealthy families in the Philippines who could stand up for thousands of other Filipino gay men.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

MSM: Straight Men Who Have Sex With Men



Not All Men Who Have Sex with Men Are Gay

I have met a lot of people who belive in the contrary that's why I feel the need to share this interesting article from GLBTQ, the online encyclopedia of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer culture. Written by Joe Kurt, the article offers an in-depth explanation on who are the MSM, or the Straight Men Who Have Sex with Men.

Allow me to divide this article in several series of posts for easier digestion.

"Men Who Have Sex with Men (MSM) is a term derived from the growing body of literature showing that not all men who have sex with men are gay. Adopted by sex researchers and AIDS organizations to classify men who have sexual relations with other men but whose sexual identity is neither gay nor bisexual, the acronym recognizes a reality that complicates our tendency to divide the world into heterosexuals and homosexuals, with a small number of bisexuals, who are sometimes thought of as simply gay men or lesbians who have not come to terms with their homosexuality. That is, the reality of sexual activity is more complicated than the traditional binary (or even trinary) system of nomenclature can accommodate.

This article focuses on straight men who have sexual relations with men (SMSM). They are not gay nor are they bisexual, though their behavior might be seen as bisexual or homosexual.

The SMSM phenomenon is not new, though it has only recently received much media attention. In earlier generations, these men may have been described as "trade"--heterosexual men who participated in same-sex sexual encounters of a restricted kind, often taking the active role in anal intercourse and the passive role in fellatio.

They may have been sex workers or men who engaged in sexual relations with other men only because female partners were not available (as in the case of prisoners or men who live in all-male environments). They may have engaged in sexual activity with other men as runaway teenagers living on the streets for survival or as young men out on a lark.

These men may have cruised for same-sex encounters in public parks or restrooms, but they were unlikely to become part of a gay community except on its fringes.
More recently, the growth of the Internet has facilitated the acting out of sexual fantasies of all kinds, including those of SMSM. The Internet has made it easier and safer for heterosexually-identified men to meet other men for quick, anonymous sex. Hence, there may be a growth in the number of men who experiment with same-sex desire without altering their sexual identities."

For the complete article, visit: http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/straight_men_who.html

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Arrest for Unprotected Sex?



Under Canadian law it is a criminal offense for anyone with HIV not to disclose their status before engaging in unprotected sex. About 80 charges arrests have been made over the past decade by the police.

Many civilians are critical of this law citing that the law could threaten people from getting tested. But according to Dr. Philip Berger, an associate professor of Medicine at the University of Toronto HIV positive people must be held accountable if they deliberately infect someone else.

Do you think such law must also be applied in our country?

Public Sex/ Gay Space



Here's an interesting excerpt from a book I am dying to have a copy of:

Public Sex/ Gay Space
by Joseph Stokes

A character on Showtime's Queer as Folk recently expressed surprise that her friend had sex with someone before having a conversation. The friend, as you probably could guess, was a gay man. Although many individual gay men have little or no interest in sex outside of an intimate relationship, as a group gay men surely engage in more than their share of casual and anonymous sex. The reason is twofold: They have both the desire and the opportunity to do so.

Having the desire is much more about being male than being gay. People vary in the degree to which they enjoy sex in the absence of commitment or emotional closeness. Generally, men are more interested than women in having sex with someone to whom they feel no commitment, although there is great variability among both male and female individuals. The evidence also suggests that straight and gay men are not different in this regard (e.g., Bailey, Gaulin, Agyei, & Gladue, 1994). The opportunities for straight and gay men are, however, quite different. When sex involves only men, the chance of finding a willing partner for casual or anonymous encounters are obviously greater.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

Heavenly Marco



Everyone who watched the special screening of Joel Lamangan's "Heavenly Touch" last Thursday in Greenbelt's My Cinema agreed that Marco Morales, the frontal nudity king local gay flicks, has arrived as an actor.

"Heavenle Touch" opens this May 13 in selected theaters.

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Big Boy on June 3



In photo: Douglas Robinson, Renz Valerio and Paolo Rivero

Our film "Little Boy/ Big Boy" will have its regular run on June 3. Directed by Joselito Altarejos, the director of "Ang Lihim ni Antonio" and "Ang Lalake Sa Parola", this film shows the innate goodness of gay men and their capacity to nurture and share unconditional love.

The author of this blog is also the writer of the script of this film.

Details on Robinsons Galleria premiere shall follow.

Reaction on Blow Job Scene



Here's a reaction from Alex, one our readers on that controversial "Blow Job" Scene in "Sagwan":


Hi Lex,

I have not seen the movie, the video (if ever there is already one), but I have also read the comments made by other blog readers.

I am no prude, I like to see sex scenes in movies. So having said that already, I hope nobody tags me as a hypocrite, as is the usual accusation hurled by others to people who gives out comments pertaining to sense and sensibilities.

I think what had made some people react indignantly to the scene in sagwan is that it was the director of the film who was seen doing it on the actor who played a character in the movie.

Now, whether the actor who was the recipient of the blowjob had the scene performed on him by his director willingly or not, does not matter anymore.

What it is is plain and simple. It left a bad taste in the mouth (though not necessarily the same goes for the good director and yes, pun intended for good reasons or not) to the moviegoers. And that included gays who lined up at UP for the uncut movie premiere showing of the movie, who by the way, do expected to see flesh and perhaps a bit more from the guys in the movie itself.

But to see the director doing it to the actor of the film? Perhaps if the scene involving the director wasn't a blowjob scene (it doesn't matter if the scene itself was not real and was just all camera angles, etc.), then I am sure that there would have been no violent reactions from the readers and viewers alike. Oh perhaps, there would still be comments on how cheaply made the movie was, too much flesh, irrelevant scenes, etc. But none of the kind that centers on the controversial blowjob scene by no less than the movie director done on one of the actors of the film.

And yes, Lex, the above comments are mine. I do not speak for the rest of the gay guys out there who could be for or against the current situation at the UP theatre and MTRCB stepping in.


ALEX

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Hi Alex,

This is interesting. Now, I realize that this controversial scene is not merely a scene that belongs to a narrative.

It has become an illustration of power among filmmakers and actors as well as among gay men and straight men.

Thanks for this perspective.

Lex

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Lights, Camera, Blow Job!


(The male stars of Sagwan)

Recently, I received several text messages from different people from the film industry regarding the case of MTRCB (Movie and Television Review and Classification Board) against gay films exhibited in UP Film Center.

They were blaming the film "Sagwan" as the precipitating factor for this case. They were even blaming its director Monti Parungao for his appearing in a blow job scene with one of his actors which earned the ire of some industry insiders making them raise their concern publicly on the "growing gay pornography" in UP. I also came across several indignant blog readers on this controversial scene in the film.

Let me share exactly what I know on this alleged "blow job" scene from the director.

First, the director is not new to oncam blow job scenes. He is an actor who has appeared in the films Masahista and La Vida Loca. He also played the role of "Perida" in "Ang Lalake sa Parola" (The Man in the Lighthouse) where he did get to have a blow job scene with a teenager and gets beaten up in the end.

And more importantly, I don't think he could ever suck his actor's cock oncam. As to my recollection he is still sane and he would never do it in front of his camera men, his staff and his friends.

And why would he even bother doing it oncam when he could always do it in the privacy of his own room?

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Anti-Gay Protester Banned From UK



"The names of some of the people barred from entering the UK for fostering extremism or hatred have been published for the first time. " This includes Islamic extremists, white supremacists and a famous anti-gay protester.

"Fred Waldron Phelps Snr, a 79-year-old American Baptist pastor, and his daughter Shirley Phelps-Roper are barred for their anti-gay comments."

"Both have picketed the funerals of Aids victims and celebrated the deaths of US soldiers as "punishment" for US tolerance of homosexuality."

SOURCE: BBC News
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/8033060.stm

Monday, May 4, 2009

On Stupidity and Gay Marriage



Yes, everyone is entitled to his own opinion.

So, if Miss California thinks that "marriage should only be between a man and a woman", yes, she is entitled to such opinion.

And I am entitled to my own opinion as well:

The idea that marriage or legal partnership should only be bewteen a man and woman is downright stupid. First, the argument haphazardly disregards the equality of every human being in the eyes of the law. Second, where does this argument come from? From a holy book? Religious beliefs are never used as basis for policies in an upright, fair and a secular world.

And what should I call a person who publicly proclaims that he or she subscribes to such stupid idea? Conveniently, she must be referred to as stupid as well.

The sad thing is we live in a world where millions of people, whether beautiful or not, are imprisoned with stupid ideas because they do not have the mental capacity to evaluate the principles and belief systems that they hold on to. That's one of the tragedies of human existence.

On the other hand, doesn't everyone else get to be stupid at one point in their lives?

Always Erect



When I was young, I have been fascinated with the medical condition called "priapism", where one's penis is in constant erection for quite some time and does not return to its flaccid state.

What makes this an abnormal condition is that penis stays erect for more than four hours without any physical or psychological stimulation -- no masterful tongue playing with it nor videos of Josh Ivan Morales in front of you.

The name comes from the Greek god Priapus, referring to the myth that he was punished by the other gods for attempting to rape a goddess, by being given a huge, but useless, set of wooden genitals.

Priapism despite of it's "exciting" characteristics is something that we wouldn't want to happen to us - it may cause damage to the blood vessels of our very precious organ resulting to impotence or may even cause gangrene, tissue death, which could lead to penis removal (which reminds me of Monique Wilson in "Laro sa Baga" and Ruffa Gutierrez in "Loretta")

Saturday, May 2, 2009

Miss California Against Gay Men



After the 1994 Miss Universe Pageant in Manila (which I truly enjoyed), for several reasons, I have lost interest in watching beauty pageants.

And one of these reasons is I no longer have the patience to watch bird brained beauties frolicking their way with public attention and adulation.

And this Miss California is just one of those beautifully stupid creatures I am referring to.

Friday, May 1, 2009

Gay Cruising Zone



This article is something that will never happen in my country, the Philippiens for the next few years:

Dutch park unveils signs pointing to gay 'cruiser' areas

A PARK near Amsterdam has unveiled information signs pointing out spots where officials say gay men are known to have sex - so no visitors are taken by surprise.

The signs "clearly indicate what is happening in each zone; also those where gay men are known to practice 'cruising'," municipal spokeswoman Manon Koffijberg said.

Cruising is a slang word used to describe the act of trawling for casual sex.

"If you don't want to be confronted by a vision of that sort, the signs allow you to avoid specific areas," said Ms Koffijberg.

The De Oeverlanden park in Slotervaart, southwest of Amsterdam, is known as a place where homosexuals from all over the Netherlands and elsewhere in Europe go in search of sex partners.
Ms Koffijberg said that while having sex in public was against the law, the park has been used for this purpose for so long that it has become "gedoog", a Dutch word for tolerating unwanted behaviour.

The sexual activities of cruisers, she said, kept mostly to the bushes in the park, and the new signs sought to ensure that they stayed there.

"There are various groups of users of the park; people with small children who bathe on the beaches, those who walk their dogs, gays cruising and nature lovers," said Ms Koffijberg.

"Things are arranged so that each group can relax in their own area without intruding on each other."

There had been recent complaints of gay bashing in the Slotervaart area, populated by a large group of immigrants of Muslim origin, with reports of robberies and violence against gay men in De Oeverlanden park.

SOURCE: http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,25402957-12377,00.html