Fight Back!

No gay man deserves to be bullied. Here is my response to "bullied gay worker":

Hi Bullied Gay Worker,

If at this point you don't like your work regardless of the "gay jokes" hurled against you, then by all means resign.

But if you are not ready and you are bothered by those anti-gay statements, then stand up for yourself. No one deserves to be bullied just because they are gay.

The next time you hear any of your co-workers making those offensive statements against you, look them in the eye and in your most confident stance, declare "Bakit, ano ang problema mo sa bakla?".

If he or she dares list some of his/ her homophobic concerns. Say this in your most declarative tone "ikaw ang may problema. Hindi ako o kung sinumang bakla."

They "Cum" Together

JC's Massage Part 3:

He started working on my neck down to my chest and a lot concentrated on my nipples.. to my stomach down to the sides of my holy grail. Sometimes nasasagi niya na nga eh. Then he said .. Sir gusto niyo masahihin ko na din to .. sabay grab sa ano ko… Sabi ko..mahal ata yang ganyan eh.. But he said.. Kayo na po bahala kung magkano gusto niyo ibigay na tip.

Siyempre i grabbed the opportunity. Ok sabi ko.. Bigla siyang pumatong sa ken, naghubad at biglang niya kong hinalikan. DI pala masahe ang bibigay niya sa ken kundi total romance. He kissed me intimately that i forgot every aching pain I had in my body. I kissed him back… played with his nipples and his thing too. His is as big as mine.. The remaining 15 minutes was spent with full romance ending it with a bang! Nagpalabas kami ng sabay.. That’s it walang ibang nangyari..pero damn, that was indeed an ultimate massage experience.

He was really nice because after the massage, he went back ang gave me a hot towel.

I gave him 500 as a tip eventhough ang pera ko lang nun eh 600 na lang. He deserved it totally.

He said thanks and I went home with my friend wondering why I was smiling and was in a great mood after :) 

Now, he's naked

JC's massage part 2:

I was fully naked. His massage has become more intense and sensual everytime his hands are on my butt. Then he said:

Sir, nag gigym po kayo no?, Ang lean din po kasi ng katawan niyo parang sa ken lang.

He was teasing me. I know that. So I replied.. “ah oo, pero di na madalas”. Then he commented “Ngayon lang ako nakapagmasahe ng kasing gwapo ko, chinito po pala kayo sir .. sabay tawa.

So i giggled too. The massage was just so good. Ang lambot ng kamay niya at ang sarap ng haplos. It came to the point where parang sobrang lalim na ng kuha niya sa pwet ko na parang hanggang dun sa butas eh minamasahe niya na. It was just erotic.. grabe I instanly had an erection.

When I turned over, I had no escaped from him seing my “thing” hard as a rock already. Sabi niya tuloy.. Wow sir.. ayos ha… Tumawa na lang ako and said. Hayaan mo na lang.. cnsya ka na ha. Ang sarap mo kasi magmasahe.. Ayos lang po, he replied.

to be continued

JC's massage

One of our readers JC, shares his pleasurable massage experience at Spada after their office Christmas party:

Hi Lex, 

I am a very discreet good looking guy and after our christmas party..my friend and I decided to have a massage since we were both tired and a bit tipsy because of the alcohol we drank on the said event. I was just really looking forward to a nice and soothing swedish massage so I can sleep the whole day afterwards. But what happened was a total opposite of what you had experienced. The masseur was very pleasant, nice voice, i should say, lalaking lalaki kumbaga. I thought, baka boses lang yung maganda but i was mistaken, when i turned around I saw an angel like face.. he looks like the young version of ian veneracion. He is very well built, which I am too by the way…hindi sa pagyayabang. He is very proactive the entire time, checking if the pressure was ok or where exactly in my body I want him to concentrate on. After the back was done,I was surprised when he asked kung ok lang daw sa ken hubarin yung boxer shorts ko para mamasahe niya din yung buttocks ko. Normally, I dont go fully naked on a massage bed, but this one’s hard to resist kasi nga sobrang cute at mabait siya. So I said “sige, ok lang “. I knew that moment that something’s bound to happen.

Go For It!

Here is my response to Alexander, the guy who is secretly in lust for and in love with his best friend:

Hi Alexander,

The answer is right in your hands. You have the right strategies. All you have to do is implement it. If I were in your shoes, I will try to find my way to his crotch again. Should the "get-him-drunk" strategy work, then it's perfect.

If it doesn't, i will tell him exactly how I feel. If he avoids me after that, fine. That is what he has been doing anyway. If it brings us into a new level of relationship, then perfect.

If the two plans fail, then it is just a confirmation that he is not into you and its a clear go signal to move on. You are young. And you are destined to meet so many other men in your life.

Good luck in your plans.

Love,

Lex

Please Help

In Love With Best Friend Part 4

Here's the last part of the letter of the secretly-in-love best friend:

I think he's also bisexual because in our Gen Pysch course I've learned that you can be gay or bi if you've witnessed a traumatic scene (I remember him saying that he saw the violent break up of his parents, his father dragged his mom out of the house because of her infidelity). Also, if you were molested at a young age (the molestations began during grade six and ended on senior year).

Lex, I don't know what to do. I love him with all my heart. I've done crazier things with other guys and girls but he is different, he's like my kryptonite. I love his chinito eyes, the mole on his right cheek, when he scrunches his nose, the way he covers his mouth when he laughs, those cursed lips, when he plays his guitar during our jammings, his armpit hair, his scent, and damn it even his sungki! I don't know if I should give up or keep on chasing pavements (quoting Adele haha). I've asked my bi-female friend and she said that he MIGHT also have feelings for me but I guess she doesn't really understand the male mind so I resorted in asking you.
Otherwise, I'll be forced to execute my most desperate move, get him drunk (Pag may alak, may balak).

I hope you can help me, because it's driving me crazy.

Thankfully yours,

Alexander.

My Best Friend's Avoiding Me

In Love With Best Friend Part 3

Letter sender enumerates why he doubts his friendship will turn to love someday:

Now, here is a list of the things that make me think that I'm not special to him:

1. I told him that I miss the past and if we could relive it. He replied that he doesn't want to because it's the past.
2. During those masturbation sessions, he doesn't want to touch mine or me touching his even if I had proposed it for a million times. Well we've touched each others pricks for 3 times I guess, 3 out of our hundred masturbation sessions.
3. Also during those "experiments" we didn't go all out, we would just do it for a minute then continue masturbating.
4. We haven't even kissed.
5. He's gone sooo cold. I'm lucky if he'll be the one to text me first or return my calls. Yet I can't stay mad at him when I get a "sorry, was busy" text from him.
6. I've arranged for us to meet for so many times and he would always cancel it for the reason that he's too lazy to get out of the house BUT he won't invite me in their house, you know it's like he doesn't want to see me. 

Sex With Best Friend

In Love With Best Friend Part 2

Letter sender enumerates why he thinks there is something more between him and his best friend:

Here's a list of the things that make me think that he also had feelings for me:

1. He confided to me his dark past,  that he was molested by a family friend.
2. We had masturbation sessions since grade six and up to present although not as often as before, we're quite busy because of our college life.
3. During high school we also experimented and ended up having oral sex, twice.
4. We had a huge fight during senior year, we didn't talk  for months and then prom came, before prom ended he hugged me out of the blue so technically he was my last dance (this is the most puzzling thing he's ever done to me, I mean why hug me in front of other students and teachers? this is also the first and last time he's hugged me)
5. If we meet, text or chat we would always play jokes about our penis sizes ( I don't think this is really valid haha)

In Love with Best Friend

(part 1)

Dear Lex,

I'm Alexander, 18 years old, bisexual and in love with my best friend. I've known him for 7 years and have been in love with him for 4 years now.

We were really close during high school and he would only share his darkest secrets, his frustrations, and his problems to me. We were like brothers or a little more than that. Our classmates even thought that we were dating but of course we just brushed it off because I was not sure of my sexuality back then  and he's not comfortable being labeled gay or bi or just being around gays. So anyways I realized that I fell in love with him when I can't stand a day without texting him, I thought of him all the time and I wanted to be with him 24/7. The problem is I don't know if he loves me too or if I'm just in the "bestfriend zone".

A Secret Relationship

Is a secret relationship worthless? Here's a question from one reader who is afraid to come out with his love life:

Hi Lex,

I'm on a relationship..but i can't be fully happy of our relationship coz..we are very much concern of what others may say..especially my partner..i'm thinking what's the use of this relationship..we can't even really say to our friends that we are lovers.. 

nerv_mplus

*****

Hi nerv_mplus,

It's true that the stability of the relationship is compromised when it is kept secret from people around you. But that doesn't mean it is worthless.

Continue to grow the relationship between the two of you. And very slowly open it to people close to you. 

I wish you love, happiness and the freedom to stand up for the one you love.

Lex

Safety Tips in Dealing with Rent Boys

(The Secret of Mr. M part 3)


Hi Mr. M,

I am so happy to hear that finally you have decided to enjoy your sexuality. I am very excited for you.

I'm not sure that by the word "booking" you are actually referring to a rent boy. If he is, I have some tips for you.

For safety reason, email a photo of that guy to a trusted friend of yours. Make sure that the guy knows that someone else knows that you are meeting him. So he is aware that you have records of him.

Meet the rent boy in a public place and from there decide whether you are really interested in him. (if you don't find him attractive just like his photos, please be considerate enough to give him some food and transportation allowance before you reject him).

The meetup is also the time to confirm his rate and clarify with him that your agreed rate is the only cash with you save for some motel fees and probably transpo or parking fees. Its always safer to do it in a motel especially Sogo since in these kind of motels, no is allowed to exit the hotel alone without prior clearance from the partner.

Also, clarify how he would classify himself whether he is straight, bisexual or gay. At least you would know what to expect when both of you are in bed.

And when you are in bed. Just enjoy every moment with him. And use condoms.

Good luck Mr. M. And happy first Gay Sex! I wish you more gay sex to come whether paid or not :-)


To joy and freedom!


Lex

Gay Sex Aprehensions

(The Secret of Mr. M part 2)


But Mr.M is a bit worried with his first gay sex. Read on:


I'm scared, Lex. I don't know what to expect. The only thing I know about gay sex is from what I see in porn videos. Other than that, nothing. But I don't want to reach past my prime without knowing it feels to have a man's body against yours.

I'm taking this risk. I know there's always the threat of sustaining STD from such an escapade. This is why I am seeking your help. I know you are a towering voice in the gay community, that's why I didn't think twice to write you about my situation.
 
I hope you can help me about this. I am more than willing to exchange correspondences with you in the future.
 
Always,
M

The Secret of Mr. M

(The Secret of Mr. M part 1)


Mr. M, a discreet guy, virgin from any forms of gay sex finally decides he's had enough of depriving himself from enjoying his sexuality. Here's the first part of his letter to Lexuality:


Hi Lex.


I booked this rather good looking guy from a website I found, and I would like to seek advice from you.
 
You see, I am a discreet gay guy. None of my friends or relatives know I am gay. I've been very good at keeping my real identity to those around me.

But keeping this secret has taken its toll on me today, when I had this dream of having a sexual encounter with three good-looking men. Upon waking up, I told myself "that's it!"
 
I've had enough. I've had several girlfriends in the past, in my attempt to live a "normal" life. But it didn't prove helpful in changing myself. I'm gay, and I had a hard time accepting that I am one. That's my problem.
 
But that's about to change. I'm gathering the courage to slowly accept who I really am. The first step I took is booking this really good looking guy I met online. We will meet on Thursday. 


(to be continued)

Looking for Dennis Torres

Hi Lex

Thanks for the many things you have written in your blog. Interesting at marami natututunan.

I have a request, is it possible through you ma kontak c Dennis Torres of "Sagwan". Alam mo na. Fan nya ko. Haay, is it possible to communicate with him? Nag search ako for any contak number or place -- wala, couldn't find any.

Please help. Sana mag ka meet kami soon.

Please find me a find to connect with him. Thanks so much

Egatchjud

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Hi Egatcjud,
 
Thanks for reading this blog. I have never spoken to Dennis in person. I guess the surest way for you to get to know him is to watch the Hotmen show on Saturday (June 4) at Zirkoh Morato.
 
I'm sure there will be auience interaction after the show.
 
Lex

Boy Shiatsu

Another blogger sent me an email requesting to promote his blog. He is a massuer/ sex worker by profession and he shares a lot of interesting and well-written stories in his site. Here's his message:

Hi Lex,

You can call me BOY SHIATSU. you can also call me your fantasy, your personal masseur, your dream sex partner... and you can call me anytime.


i have been a masseur for more than 2 years already, and with those years, i have had a long list of interesting stories... nakakalibog, nakakatawa, nakakadiri, nakakatakot, nakakalungkot, nakakaexcite... and with this site, i get to share those stories, to at least show everyone how fun (or not) it really is to be a masseur.

The site is kind of plain pa, hindi kasi ako marunong magpaganda ng website eh. but read the stories, and i hope you'll appreciate it. comments are very much welcome.

thanks LEX!

(ps: kung sino gusto magdesign ng site, may libreng masahe, haha!)

How Woud You Know If a Guy Is Serious?

Part 4 of Migz, the Virgin

In a romantic level, you'll know if a guy is into you if he wants to build a deep friendship with you even after both of you have explored all kinds of physical connection in bed. Another indicator if a guy is romantically serious with you is, if he starts introducing you to his friends and family. That means there's something between the two of you that's really special.

These are some of the lessons i have learned having experienced a little over a decade of flirting, loving and hurting. I'm sure the wiser readers of this blog have more to say.

 Thank you for reading this blog.Young people like you are the reason why I continue to maintain this website. May you have a joyful, exciting and a fulfilling gay life ahead of you.

Love,

lex

"Eye" Like You

Part 3 of Migz, the Virgin

Lets start with a hookup. How would you know if another guy is interested in you for a quick hook up? Now, this usually happens in public. And this is my general rule, If a guy stares at you for more than 3 seconds, chances are, he is into you (unless of course, he thinks you are someone else)

If he stares at you and does something else with his lips or makes a quick bilateral rise and drop of eye brows, then he really is into you.

Whenever you see someone interesting in public. Use the power of eye contact. If he looks back at you. Then, smile. Youll never know where a simple smile could lead you to.

Hookup or Romance?

Part 2 of Migz, the Virgin

Hi Migz,

Thank you for writing. How old are you? If you are in your teenage years to early twenties, then you shouldn't feel bad being a virgin at all. Many straight Filipino guys are also virgin when you at that age bracket. So, there's nothing to worry about it.

And since you are a virgin, please heed the advice of a certified slut like me. Lose your virginity to someone you find very special. Someone you trust. And someone you really like (at the very least). Make your first sexual experience an intimate moment where there is genuine sharing of desire between you and your partner. If you do that, you're off to a healthier sex life.

Now, for your question, how will you know if another guy likes you. The most obvious answer is to take it from his  non verbal cues. Many people have difficulty verbalizing their romantic intentions. And that makes the whole game more exciting.

Allow me to answer your question into two categories: first, the hookup level - the casual, sometimes anonymous and plain consummation of desire and the second, romantic level.

TO BE CONTINUED...

Migz, the Virgin

Dear Lex,

    Im migs, i was browsing the net and it led me to your page. Salamat sa blog mo kasi its a page where i can be free. Discreet kasi ako, my dad is a retired army mahirap magladlad for now kasi complicated anyway masaya pa din ako kahit deprived sa mga bagay na usually ginagawa ng normal na gays kagaya ng nasa blog mo. Question kuya how would i know if another guy likes me? he he cencya na ah wala kasi me experience sa mga ganun he he pahingi naman ng tips. Gusto ko kasi maka experience magka BF feeling ko kasi ako na lang ang natitirang virgin ha ha.

Regards,
Migz

For Ronnie

Dear Ronnie,

Thank you for sharing your difficult situation. The wise readers of this blog have spoken. And your options are laid out on you. It is difficult to continue with a relationship when trust is compromised. But is a 15 year relationship worth saving? Definitely. But only if your partner is willing to be honest with you.

I wish you happiness in whichever option you decide to take.

Lex