Monday, February 21, 2011

"I Don't Know What to Do"

"My Partner is Cheating on Me" part 2

Let's continue the letter of Ronnie who is having "trust" issues with his long time parter of 15 years:

I have already invested a lot in the relationship both emotionally and financially. 

I want to ask him about it but I don't know what to say. Whenever we get into petty arguments when we do yahoo IM, he usually goes ballistic and often will say "ayoko na" "nakakasawa" "nakakapagod" and I have to back down and say sorry.

Right now we're doing ok. He is his usual self. I don't know if he is acting or what. If he is, he's doing a good job. I'm still 100% into the relationship. My family knows him and his family knows me. I know when I go back to the US next month, he will be with the guy again.

In my mind, I know what to do but I don't know if it is the right thing to do.



At this point, I would have wanted to answer this letter. But another email was sent to me by Ronnie on the more interesting developments of his story. We'll get deeper into the story until the next post.



ןıuǝ oɟ ɟןıƃɥʇ said...

i don't really understand what investment he thinks he's protecting if he can't talk things out with his partner...

david m. said...

you already know where the relationship stands. either you can handle it or you cannot.

when you invest in a relationship, the payoff is the time you spend together in the present, nothing more.

things don't always turn out the way we would like them to and usually one person ends up hurting a lot more than the other.

you can talk about it all you want but your partner is going to do whatever he wants. why invest anymore of your time in broken promises and false hope?

remember, it could have been the other way around and he could have been the one left with egg on his face.

forgive me if i sound cold but holding on to something that no longer exists is a waste of living.

good luck!

Anonymous said...

i guess it was bound to happen, sooner if not later. the situations surrounding their environment and relationship all direct towards that unfortunate ending.

Anonymous said...

Masakit to end up.. pero sa mga linyang ganyan.. "nakakasawa", "pagod na".. Hindi seryoso ang guy sa kanya.. Oo, nag invest ka, maybe more than a million na.. Pero pag ganyan at ganyan.. Humanap ka na ng iba.. Tulong mo na lang yung pera.. Emotionally, you have to over come.. marami dyan.. Try to be single muna.. Madaling sabihin, pero gradually.. 15 years is not worth it pag ayaw nya mag compromise.. He has somebody else.. Kaya kung ayaw nya tigilan yun.. Humanap ka rin ng iba.. May darating yan.. Right time..