On Sponsoring a Varsity Player

I had a nice chat with a dance choreographer and he admitted to me that his dating and sexual relationships generally revolves around "sponsoring" several varsity basketball players.

It caught my interest and i asked about the details of such kind of dating preference. here are some interesting stuff I gathered from him:

* Most basketball players are quite familiar with "gay-men-sponsoring-a-basketball-player" relationship. In fact, many of them do welcome such affairs.

* Varsity players are usually scholars hence, they don't pay for their tuition fees and they even get free athletic stuff from their school. Unfortunately, their basketball shoes do get worn out every two months due to their rigorous practice. Hence, a helping gay man is always welcome to provide them with new athletic footwear.

*In his experience, most of his boys would ask for new gagdets such as the latest model of mobile phones and media players.

*It is a fact that the money he gives to the boys end up as "dating fund" for the girlfriends of the boys. My informant does not mind though. For him, he is happy with the fact that he has "tasted" his man way before his girlfriend enjoys him.

* As my informant claims, most of his varsity boys are definitely more gifted than the average Filipino sex organ.

MSM: Gay Men vs. MSM

Many people are too impatient to recognize the difference between sexual identity and sexual behavior. The following outlines the difference between gay men and SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with other Men).

Here's the continuation of our MSM Series from glbtq.com:


"A gay man's sexual orientation is characterized by lasting aesthetic attraction to, romantic love of, and sexual attraction almost exclusively towards those of the same gender. A gay man's sexual thoughts, fantasies, and behavior are aligned. His identity is based on affectional, emotional, spiritual, psychological, and sexual feelings directed exclusively or mostly toward men."

"While some gay men can include and enjoy women as part of their sexual fantasies and behaviors (for instance, being sexual with a woman while with another man or experimenting by having sex with a woman), the gay man is mostly if not totally attracted to men."

"In contrast, SMSM might fantasize about men, but their primary sexual and romantic attractions are toward women. They are heterosexual men who for a variety of reasons engage in sexual behavior with other men. They are not gay, nor are they bisexual, though their sexual behavior includes sex with other men. The key point is that they do not self-identify or see themselves as gay or bisexual."

"In understanding SMSM, a significant distinction is that between sexual preference and sexual identity. Sexual preferences are about various desires, positions, and fantasies one might have, whereas sexual identity is about how one self-identifies in terms of straight, gay, or bisexual."

"A straight man's sexual behavior with men may reflect a need for quick sexual release or a desire to experiment or an addiction or a complex reaction to past sexual abuse. This behavior sometimes expresses problems and conflicts with their sexual feelings and desires, but it is not an expression of a gay identity."


For the complete article, visit: http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/straight_men_who.html

From Closeted Anonymous

Here's a message from a "closeted" first time Lexuality reader:

Hi there!

It's my first time to visit this blog site, and due to the nature of my environment (situation) as a "closeted gay," I hardly do get a chance to read something as "decent" as yours.

Apologies for the terms used above however I really do appreciate all the interesting and well written thoughts you have.

I have never tried going to a gay bar so I don't have the right to comment however, don't you think that whatever type of joy we experience in either getting a massage or going to a strip club, nothing beats genuine care/love for somebody?

I know I sound lost so I'll just go back to my first agendum here, to commend you and just forget about all the things that I said.

from "closeted" anonymous

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Hi "Closeted" Anonymous,

Thanks for visiting Lexuality and thank you for calling me "decent". Most people would rarely describe me as such.

It is true that an intimate relationship is certainly rewarding.

But in a gay man's lifestyle, it' hard to take out promiscuity from the equation. Blame evolution for that.

I hope in the near future, you could start coming out. Life is much better when you know that the people around you are comfortable with your sexuality.

Good Luck!

Lex

Beware of QC Rent Boys

image of Quezon City Memorial Circle

Two of my friends have become victims of Rent Boys (kolboys) lurking outside the Quezon City Memorial Circle who have police friends who routinely intimidate gay clients to cough up extorsion money from pitifully frightened gay men.

I'm publishing an email from cutieboy2020@yahoo.com which I have picked up from a yahoo group. For your guidance, in the Philippines, Rent Boys are more popularly known as "Call Boys".

This email has been published unedited by the blog author.


QC CIRCLE CB and the POLICE

this is a story of picking up a call boy at QC circle.

i drove around qc circle 2am. i actually just want to see the faces of call boys. when i parked my car on the side, a call boy came to my car. he talk to me that he would give me satisfaction without regrets. he was so kulit so i let him in.

i noticed that he was texting someone and he told me that it was his gf. i did not know any motels around, so he gave me choices either in cubao, visayas or commonwealth. i chose commonwealth and he lead me the way.

we entered the room and had a very short fun.

when we just left the motel, a police patrol car tried to overtake my car. a flashlight was pointed to me while driving and i was signaled to park on the side. i did not know what violation i made. the police talked to me and asked if i had a gun or anything. then, the other police knocked on the right side of the car. he said the the guy beside me was a call boy who was always spotted at circle. the call boy went out of the car and was accompanied by the police.

the 2 police came inside my car and told me that there has been a city ordinance that outlaws picking up of call boys. they told me that they would bring me to a police station for charges. they also told me that the police record will be permanent. since i do not want to have a police record, i offered them P3,000 but they wanted P5,000, so I gave this amount to them and allowed me to go.

when i was on my way home, i realized that the call boy might actually be associated with the police. everything might have been planned and scripted between the call boy and the police. the call boy might have been texting with the police all along, that's why when we went out of the motel, my car was immediately spotted. there was no reason for the police to point the flashlight to my car. i was just driving straight and there was no unusual in my driving.

fuck those police! they may go to hell.
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Here are some safety tips from lobster_ph@yahoo.com on what to do just in case this happens to you:

(1) Ask, respectfully, for the name of the policeman. Get his badge number.
(2) Ask what particular ordinance you violated.
(3) DO NOT get out of the car without locking all the doors.*
(4) DO NOT open the trunk unless you open it yourself (if possible use your camera phone to videotape you opening the trunk)*
(5) It might be best to just allow yourself to be brought to the police station because again they will be forced to let you go as there is NO ordinance nor did you break any law.
(6) DO NOT be intimidated by these guys.


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Sexy Bong

Here's a very sexy photo of our new moral guardian Senator Bong Revilla, Jr. This erotic photo features him and Assunta de Rossi in the film "Ang Kilabot at Kembot". Senator Bong has been one of my ultimate fantasies in showbiz. And for me, he will always be sexier than Hayden Kho, Jr, the country's current sex villain.

With this hot photo, I think the senator is better on movies than on politics.

On Morality

Everyone is going gaga over morality nowadays in the midst of the sex scandal issue of Dr. Hayden Kho.

Allow me to share my opinion on the grandstanding of vice-president-wannabe Sen. Bong Revilla, former-police-and-planning-to-be-a-mayor-again Mr. Afuang and other "moral" key players on this sex scandal issue.

Morality is a complex philosophical exercise which is better enjoyed than imposed to other people.

After all, who among us have been completely morally upright from our day of birth?

Gay Movie Titles

I received a text message with a list of interesting suggestions for gay movie titles. (Sorry for the non-Filipino speaking readers of this blog, I just can't translate these humorous lines in English)

* Wag Kang Kikibo, Ako Ang Susubo (A spin off of the Priscilla Almeda movie "Huwag kang Kikibo, Diyos ang Hihipo)

* Bukas Luluhod ang Mga Bakla (from the Sharon Cuneta classic "Bukas Luluhod ang Mga Tala")

* Totoy Mola Vs. Ben Tuwad

* Ikasa Mo, Dadapa Ako

* Sa Yo Ang Tahong, Aking ang Talong

And My Favorite...

* Sagad Hanggang Toncil