Many people are too impatient to recognize the difference between sexual identity and sexual behavior. The following outlines the difference between gay men and SMSM (Straight Men who have Sex with other Men).
Here's the continuation of our MSM Series from glbtq.com:
"A gay man's sexual orientation is characterized by lasting aesthetic attraction to, romantic love of, and sexual attraction almost exclusively towards those of the same gender. A gay man's sexual thoughts, fantasies, and behavior are aligned. His identity is based on affectional, emotional, spiritual, psychological, and sexual feelings directed exclusively or mostly toward men."
"While some gay men can include and enjoy women as part of their sexual fantasies and behaviors (for instance, being sexual with a woman while with another man or experimenting by having sex with a woman), the gay man is mostly if not totally attracted to men."
"In contrast, SMSM might fantasize about men, but their primary sexual and romantic attractions are toward women. They are heterosexual men who for a variety of reasons engage in sexual behavior with other men. They are not gay, nor are they bisexual, though their sexual behavior includes sex with other men. The key point is that they do not self-identify or see themselves as gay or bisexual."
"In understanding SMSM, a significant distinction is that between sexual preference and sexual identity. Sexual preferences are about various desires, positions, and fantasies one might have, whereas sexual identity is about how one self-identifies in terms of straight, gay, or bisexual."
"A straight man's sexual behavior with men may reflect a need for quick sexual release or a desire to experiment or an addiction or a complex reaction to past sexual abuse. This behavior sometimes expresses problems and conflicts with their sexual feelings and desires, but it is not an expression of a gay identity."
For the complete article, visit: http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/straight_men_who.html
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hindi naman po sakit ang pagiging gay para mahawa ang sinumang nakatalik nya,..MALI!!.kung ano ka ikaw yun!,.ang lalake kapag nasa edad na teenager pa yan nakikipag relasyon sa mga gays dahil sa pera nga,curious,wala lang!for fun,kayabangan,dala ng barkada,..pero pag ang isang lalake medyo nasa edad na tlaga o matured age na tapos nakikipag affair sa isang gay,may posibilidad na may maganap na seryosohang relasyon,.kase ang guy na nasa edad na talaga,kilala na nila sarili nila,if ano sila at mailalabas lang yun kapag nag karoon sila ng confidant na gay o kaya sa edad na iyon,kung pano pumili ang isang matured guy ng isang babae ganun din sa gay,natural,guys, like simple,mabuting tao,masarap kasama o kausap,pero,para sa mga immatured stage palang yung guy,kahit sinong gays jan basta may pera ok lang sa kanya,iba yung atake ng mga matured guys sa teenager o immatured pa na guys,kase pag matured yung guy andun na yung companionship at mga filing na ang gay at guy na lang makakapaliwanag nun,.pg nasa abroad ka,madami talagang relasyong gay at guy na nabubuo.kase nasa edad na tlaga, to handle this kind of affair di tulad nung bata bata pure gamitan lang!sa abroad din kase madaming guys na nakikilala nila ang tunay na sila,madami din sa abroad lalo na yung guys na sanay na talaga sa relasyong ganyan kahit may asawa o anak sa pinas,at since highschool,open na sya sa gay relationship,ok din sa kanya but hes a real man ha,natural, sa asawa padin nya babalik pero at least andun yung respeto na binigay nya sa isang gay.,.now,wise na din mga gays kase gusto nila relasyong pangtotohanan o pang matagalan,na may kasalang magaganap ,so,they sometimes divert sa mga ibang lahi na nakukuha nila yung feeling na accept sila at mahal din sila,.sa ngayon,di muna din alam anong gender ng tao e.hehe.kakalito na!basta may mga guys naopen minded lang at ok lang sa kanya iyon,may guys na gamitero talaga at sya din nagagamit!hehe.,ibat ibang dahilan at sitwasyon,mahalaga,sa mga gays,habang nagsasaya ka,b sure,may natitira sayo,bukod sa material or money wise,.yung DIGNIDAD bilang tao,..yung pera kinikita e pero yung dignidad mahirap ibalik,.
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