Saturday, September 11, 2010

Gay Identity Issues at the Office

Dear Lex,

I am an avid fan of your site. I am glad that there is someone like you to understand our needs whether we are gay/bi sexual/or trippers. I am a young professional and an achiever as they say and i am very discreet. Nobody knows that I am like this, gay. Though being discreet doesn’t prohibit me satisfy my sexual needs.

I work for one of the top companies here in the Philippines, i am a supervisor and sometimes, get indecent proposals from our clients. But i refuse to do it with then. When I watch your films, I even wear caps and shades in entering the cinema so that no one would recognize me.

Then, a manager had a crush on me and turned him down and now, he has been looking for ways to set me up. Until he saw me watching your movies and i told him that i saw you once and you were introduced. i think that was during the pulupot night..Right now, i am up for promotion and the issue has blown out of proportion.

Many people in the office had no issues with my sexual identity. But there is one female who has been constantly pulling me down, claiming that i am immoral as i support senseless films and i bring that attitude to work. I find it unfair that she has to use my sexual preference to criticize my work attitude.

They are all hypocrites. They spread rumors about different people in the office. They say that "gays", bisexuals are immoral! i saw her awhile ago when i went to the main branch, she is pregnant for 2 months and her husband has been in Dubai for a year. My question is, who is the father of the baby? who is immoral? she just kept quiet. I just told her to stop saying bad things to people because she is already pregnant, give what is due to the baby, not her selfish scheme to ruin others for her to move up.

Revenge comes in the sweetest package! But honestly, i wish well for the baby because she is out of this.

i hope you share your opinion on this.

Thanks!

denver

*****

Dear Denver,

Now, you have turned me into your fan. I admire you for standing up for your sexual identity. And I admire you for confronting your bitch of an officemate for claiming that you bring "immorality" into your workplace just because you are gay.

May you have all the success that you deserve. And continue to shine as a gay man.

Lex

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

i, too, have the same experience. feeling ko did not landed for the job because the manager that interviewed me is not fond of gay people. she ask personal questions like do you cross dress, do you like to get married in same sex and all that. i feel so bad right after that interview. feeling ko she questioned my competency because i am gay.

from then on, markado n yung company n yun sakin. naiinis p din ako kapag naalala ko. sana someone could teach her a lesson. that we too exist in the society.

Anonymous said...

ano b yan, nanood k lang... bakla n..sbihin mo sa mga kasama m., bkit ang mga lalaki nanood ng concert tinitilian nila eh samantala lalaki yun singer...ang gay kapag nakarinig ng mga gayan usapan mabilis sila makaisip ng self defence-mechanism (personality development yan nun sa college p ko).. kaya pairalin m yan at buhayin mo..makikita mo mag-iiba ang pakikitungo sayo ng mga kasama mo sa work...at sasabihin pa nila briliant ang baklang yan (ibig sabihin matalino ka), sa gayon tahimik k lang...

Anonymous said...

maswerte nga tayo sa pinas anyhow accepted ang gays at lesbos,,sa iba,delikado ang mga gays,,tsk,,may mga konting pipol lang jan na di padinmaintindihan ang mga gays,kase kapag sinabing gays,lahat tingin cock hunger,lahat pokpok,,mahilig sa sex at sex lang ang nais sa lalake,,siguro ,dahil sa mga sinaunang mga gays iyan,..na nagpapagamit at nagpapaloko sa mga lalake,,sa ngayon,nahahati na tlaga ang mga gays,,MAY MGA GAYS NA SIGURO DAHIL PRETTY FACE SILA,.NARERESPETO SILA,.may mga gays na smart,decent,may breeding at may takot sa dyos tlaga,at may mga gays na bitchy,walang modo at mahilig sa sex tlaga kahit sino,magpapabayad sila ,mapagbigyan lang ang laman,,na syang nakakawalang respeto iyon,.SA MGA GAYS=PAGPIPIGIL SA SARILI ang dapat AT PAGBABASA NG BIBLIYA,,.ako ,bakla ako,pero i bliv na ANG BAKLA SA BABAE PADIN o kaya sa family nalang bilang single blessedness,..if susundin mo ang tama at true na nsa bibliya,.kaya nga bilib ako sa mga gays na malakas ang self control,sa sarili,.bihira lang sila!.masakit man isiping may mga bakla sa abroad na nagbabayad din sa ibang lahi,tsk,,wag naman!dapat tayo ang bayaran,hehe,,nasa abroad na nga e!.kaya nga sabi ko sa mga european at american mo lang makikita ang tunay na relasyon at comfort,sa pinoy,nagagamit ka e,.SA MGA GAYS JAN,,LET SHOW TO PIPOL NA PWEDING MAHALIN ANG ISANG BAKLA NA WALANG PERANG INVOLVED,.yung frens ko na bakla na magaganda ang face,sila ang nililigawan ng ibang lahi,.WE SALUTE GAYS NA HINDI KELANMAN MAGBABAYAD NG ALIW DAHIL SA LALAKE,.wag pagagamit o paloloko,.magjakol na lang!.karamihan mga pangit na bakla ang mga nagbabayad,.hehe,.RESPETO NAMAN SA SARILI,.ang formula jan,,si GOD,,,kilalanin ng mga bakla ang dyos,,godbles.

Anonymous said...

i hate power tripping,,,.lalo na sa mga gays,....mahiya nnaman kayo!!komo nasa pwesto kayo,,magpopower tripping kayo makuha lang gusto nyo..wag naman,,wag tayong manira ng tao,,STOP THIS IN PHILS,,sabi nga ni PNOY!!lets all do this nation a clean living and out of politicking ways,..walang gamitan,,,,nakakawalang respeto din sa mga gays iyan,,,GAYS R EPITOME F CLASS,PROFFESIONALISM AT DECENCY,,,