Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Are The Macho Dancers the Only Solution?
Response to Lonely Engineer
Hi Drake Mikels,
Thank you for trusting me to be sane enough to give insight into your issues. As I understand, your first biggest problem is that you have never experienced sex in your life. Unless you have horrible skin disease and you were born with three eyes and eight legs, I don’t understand why you couldn’t find anyone to have sex with you. The fact that your best friend agrees to sleep with you (even without having sex) says that you are certainly an acceptable person worthy to be beside another human being.
So I guess, in your words, we can acknowledge that it’s your faith that has been a hindrance for you to enjoy your sexuality. And I being an atheist, is not the best person to talk to you about faith. Unless, you are ready to explore atheism, then I will give you my number.
Now, let’s proceed to your questions:
Lonely Engineer: He doesn’t want to lose me as a friend either, so should I keep him as a friend?
Lex: By All Means.
Lonley Engineer: If I do keep him as my friend, how do I get over my feelings for him?
Lex: Our feelings are shaped by our perspectives. You are lucky to have him as a friend who will accept you for who you are. It is possible to use this genuine friendship as a tool to re-shape how you see and how you feel about him.
Lonely Engineer: Should I still continue to hope and wait? Or should I just shag the macho dancers to rid myself of my virginity?
Lex: If you are very curious and is dying to know how it feels to play with another man’s lips, how it feels to have a man’s nipple by your tongue and how it feels to have a manhood inside your mouth, for goodness sake, find someone to have sex with whether you pay for it or not! Life is oh so short! You’re not a woman. I don’t understand why you should punish yourself with virginity.
Lonely Engineer: Will it be shameful if my first kiss and my first sexual encounter come from macho dancers?
Lex: Certainly not. Your sexuality is yours. When it comes to what you do with your sexuality as long you do not step on the rights of other people, you are only answerable to yourself and not to the opinion of society.
Mr. Lonely enginner, I think your mistake is you keep on asking for romantic love from your straight best friends. Such behavior is an obvious recipe for tragedy. You need to come out and find other gay men to connect with. The diverse community of gay man is an abundant source of sisters and potential lovers.
Hiding in the closet is a life of punishment. Be the best of who you are and meet other like minded individuals. I am sure that true love and intimacy will soon find your way.