Sunday, May 17, 2009

MSM: The Desires of the Straight Man



To continue with our MSM (Men Who Have Sex with other Men) Series from the GLBT Encylopedia, let's probe on the very interesting question: Why Would Straight Men Have Sex with other men?

There are a number of reasons why straight men might have sex with other men. These reasons range from situational homosexuality to sexual addiction. In general, SMSM behavior is about physical release and sexual behaviors, not about attraction or desire for another man. The attraction is toward the act or the body (or body parts) of the male not the other man himself.

Straight men who have sex with other men often have high sex drives and are easily aroused sexually. They may seek out connections with men for a quick and easy sexual release in which they are not required to engage emotionally or to risk their identity as a heterosexual man.

Some SMSM might be described as "Hetero-Emotional and Homo-Sexual." These are men who are romantically attracted to the opposite sex but whose predominant sexual arousal is by other men. They are usually heterosexually married and in love with their wives, but nevertheless feel sexually driven by a need to have sex with other men.

Other SMSM are socially phobic and have inadequate skills necessary to flirt with and connect to women. They may have such extreme anxiety that they find their sexual release with other men due to the ease and lack of social skills necessary to have a sexual hook-up through the Internet, rest areas, parks, and other places men cruise for sex with other men.

For the complete article, visit: http://www.glbtq.com/social-sciences/straight_men_who.html

3 comments:

aresinuae said...

hmmmm....

Parang unacceptable pa rin. Di ko pa rin magets ang point ng article. Is it telling me that men who have women partners who get aroused by men can still be straight, if they don't feel anything emotional when having sex with men?

That sounds gay to me. Siguro yung original writer ng article is a man with a wife who is still having sex with other men and is trying to convince the world he is not gay....

Pasensya ateng....

Anyway, I enjoy reading your blog! Peace out!

line of flight said...

I think what is sad, is that many gay guys have the same affective split regarding sex even if they are gay identified that the straight-identified MSMs have. resolving the split between getting off and deep intimacy is the biggest task facing gay communities, in my humble opinion.

bien said...

Hey Lex! great article! I am somehow enlightened why our friend (you know who) gets to hook up with guys who I am absolutely sure are straight. What I can't figure out is why with him and not with me. bwahahahahaha.