Here's a post at the chatbox by Marj26 that caught my attention:
bakit sa akin walang ngkakagusto? kasi di ako attractive at openly gay ako dapat po ba maging discreet ako para may magmahal skin? (How come no one is interested to have me in a relationship? Is that because I am openly gay and I am not discreet. Do I have to be such just so someone could fall in love with me?)
Masarap sana pag galing ka sa trabaho at pagod sa work tapos may uuwian k n gusto mo. ung lalakeng excited n mkarating ka sa bahay dahil mahal ka niya. sana meron tyong lahat na ganoon....sana mranasan ko rin yun. (How I wish that after a day of hard work, some guy looks forward for me to get home just because he loves to see me. I wish everyone to have that special someone. I hope I could experience such love as well.)
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Hi Marj 26,
Being loud and openly gay should not stop you from finding love. That's a misconception. I am openly gay and far from being discreet but I have experienced wonderful relationships even from the very discreet closet imprisoned gay men. You should always be true to yourself if you want a genuine relationship. And never compromise your very being just for another person.
In terms of attractiveness, that's a social rule that we all have to abide in if we want to attract other people. Do your best to become as presentable as you are. Get fit. Live a healthy life. And if you have extra money, spend on products and services that will make you more attractive, so to speak.
No one wants to be in a relationship with a person who cannot even take care of himself (unless you are looking for the neurotic kind).
Being human, it is natural to crave for companionship and genuine relationship. But hey, life never loses its meaning even if we navigate it alone all by ourselves.
Genuinely love yourself. And true love will most likely follow.